Angel Horton Frank
Director of Communications,
Alzheimer’s Association
September 4, 2023
National Grief Awareness Day is August 30, a good time to discuss the ways dementia caregivers and those living with Alzheimer’s can experience this emotion.
Grief is associated with loss, such as a person passing away, but it’s normal to experience grief and its stages while a person is living with the disease. Feelings of grief prior to loss are called “anticipatory grief,” as we prepare for and think about what’s to come. It can help to acknowledge your feelings and get support to deal with them.
Stages and Experiences of Grief
In the 1960s, Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross identified five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These can make it easier to recognize your own experience of grief and the different ways it can manifest.
The stages of grief don’t always happen in order. You might not experience all of them and they may feel different for you.
Moving Through Grief
Being able to live with grief starts with understanding that it is normal and necessary. Let yourself feel whatever emotions and thoughts—positive or negative—come up without judgment. If you are overwhelmed by your feelings, find a healthy outlet for them. This can involve talking to a healthcare professional or trusted friend or counselor, keeping a journal, or even taking a walk.
Accept that your grief is unique to you and your situation. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and no time frame for your feelings. For caregivers, research suggests that becoming educated about dementia, having support, and being organized about care planning can make grief easier to manage, especially anticipatory grief. It’s also important to make time for things you enjoy. You might also seek out people who understand and can empathize, such as a support group.
The Alzheimer’s Association offers a free 24/7 Helpline at 800.272.3900. You don’t need a specific reason to call other than needing to talk. The Association also offers online and in-person support groups and free care consultations, which can include strategies to process grief and take care of yourself. To learn more, visit alz.org.